Compromise...Not

I have never liked the word compromise when it comes to a relationship because to me, it implies giving something up, making a concession. I don’t think anyone should have to give up any part of their self unless it’s a bad habit they want to give up. I prefer the word adjustment because it implies flexibility and adaptability, the capacity to move and flow with another person. That is how I think a relationship should work. If you have to give up too much of yourself what is there? Why be with someone who causes you to lose yourself? More importantly, why be with someone that you want to change into something else? I always cringe when I hear someone talking about "training" their partner or spouse. I guess I’m not exactly the relationship specialist considering my many years of bachelorhood but I know what I want and don’t want and I’m happy. If the right "adjustment" comes along I’m ready, but compromise myself I will not.